Now I've had a few days to digest the latest news about my MP, I have decided to blog about it. I do have another blog that I tend to keep all of the political stuff in, but in the last couple of years, my relationship with my MP, or perhaps my relationship with the feelings she instills, has become rather more personal. To summarise, she announced on her blog that she was now in a relationship with a married man, and that they were justifying it as the mans wife had subjected him to many years of alcoholic abuse. The blog was accompanied by personal statements from the man in question, and his daughter.
I apologise for linking to the Daily Mail, but felt it was justified in this instance (If for no other reason than to read Dorries line about seeing him "Framed in the doorway"...I hope she doesn't go into fiction writing, I suspect she would have the same degree of success that she has achieved in fair minded political debate)
I try very hard not to sit in judgement over others in their personal life. Sometimes what seems black and white on the surface can be so much more complicated that that. Without having full possession of the facts, it is a dangerous thing to make a value judgement, in particular when we are talking about peoples private lives. However, Mrs Dorries chose to make this public on her blog. It was done, apparently, because she had been advised that the Daily Mail were about to run a less than complimentary story with the wife of her boyfriend. I can understand the worry that this might cause, and on many occasions, pre-empting can be a good thing. My problem, however, is that she chose to do it in such a vile and vindictive way. Were the details of this woman's alcoholism really necessary in defending her actions? Do we still live in a society that really genuinely cares what people get up to behind closed doors? Was the press release from the daughter supposed to help a woman who is apparently an alcoholic? Was the press release an attempt to set the record straight, or was it in fact a poor attempt at justifying a relationship that surely very few people care about? I think what lies at the heart of all of this is Dorries ridiculous holier than thou attitude that she has tried to present over the years. This constant and relentless portrayal of a woman of faith, who lives her life by a strict moral code and expects all others to do the same. All of a sudden, faced with other opportunities, be they sexual, or be they whatever urges you get from sleeping with a millionaire, she is faced with an immoral dilemma. Nobody, but the particularly over zealous, would deny a lonely person a little hapiness. It seems to me that we are none of us here long enough to be able to truly relax if we are lonely. Here we have a woman who has chosen a relationship over some of the morals that she has apparently set fro herself. Perhaps these morals have been imposed rather than anything else? She has very close connections with some fairly hardcore Christian activist groups who have apparently "Supported her" in many of her campaigns. Will her decision to enter into this relationship put any of those arrangements difficult now? Or are they all morals for the sake of it? "Surface morals" if you like? I hope that everyone involved in this story finds the happiness they deserve, and I genuinely mean that. I just hope that we see a change in her attitude to making judgements about others from now on. She has made at least three personal attacks on people that I have witnessed, and I hope that now she has experienced a little taste of it, we might see a slight change. Somehow I doubt that this will be the case. In other news, whilst Mrs Dorries has been busy preparing press releases about her private life, I still have two unanswered letters.
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